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Please contact the author at jaywiseman yahoo. Hello and welcome to the munch! Perhaps this is your first munch. Perhaps this is your first BDSM event of any kind. You are on the threshold of meeting many new people, having many new experiences, and both learning and growing a great deal. Please note that munches tend to be social events, not educational events.

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Most munches are held in restaurants, often in a special room or area of the restaurant. Munches tend to be informal affairs with relatively little structure or protocol. Most munches are publicized primarily online, and the Internet figures prominently in their history and development. Munches were started in the early s by people who had an interest in BDSM and who were also online. The Internet had not yet gone really mainstream. These people began meeting at local restaurants. Their continues to grow. Munches continue in Palo Alto to this day.

People who attend munches can vary widely, however as a group they tend to be highly intelligent, highly munch bdsm, and highly individualistic.

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Essentially all attendees have a personal interest in BDSM. Most munches have a deated host or hosts who are informally — but munch bdsm, if need be — in overall charge of the event. Some munches are especially intended for certain types of people such as people of a certain age range or people munch bdsm an interest in a particular aspect of BDSM play, and these are usually specifically advertised as such.

People who cross-dress and transgendered people also sometimes attend. If you have an interest in one-gender events, the munch hosts will likely be able to make a referral. On the other hand, showing up in highly informal clothing may not make the best first impression either.

There is a strong rule in this community, sometimes spoken and sometimes not but always there, that the privacy of event attendees is protected. Please remember that people are here to interact regarding a highly personal aspect of themselves, so once you leave keep your mouth shut about the identities of who you saw there, what they said and did, and so forth.

For example, if you saw a co-worker at a munch, keep quiet about that when you return to work. Although you may find that you and the co-worker will want to arrange a private lunch or after-work coffee date, or at least trade the occasional knowing smile. Violating the confidentiality rule can get you shunned and banned. BDSM people often use scene-related jargon to let others know what activities they enjoy. Consider asking what those terms mean to them. By the way, given that non-BDSM people, including children, are probably also at the restaurant and may be able to see into the room where the munch is being held, explicit BDSM behavior is generally frowned upon.

Be exceptionally courteous and friendly to the staff.

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Violating this rule can make a seriously bad impression on the munch hosts. When it comes time to pay, be sure to munch bdsm your full share plus a generous tip. You can score a few extra points as a team player if you bring along some one-dollar and five-dollar bills to help the other attendees make change. Because a lot of the people attending already know each other well, you may see a lot of hugging.

This is true even if this is your first event and the other person seems to be well-known and prominent. If they are making munch bdsm feel uncomfortable with their behavior, there is a very good chance that they are also making other attendees uncomfortable as well and the hosts need to know about that. Make sure that you keep a respectful distance from the other attendees. Men need to be especially mindful on this point. Women in the community tend to be somewhat close-knit. Offend one of them with boorish behavior and many other women will quickly learn about it.

Munches are often publicly advertised and are generally open to all attendees who can observe a few basic rules of social conduct. An excellent way to deal with this is simply to give things time. Doing so can be especially risky. Take munch bdsm time, give it time, and let time do its work on your behalf.

With enough time — and often a surprisingly short amount of it — the right thing to do usually becomes clear. Never let anybody rush you. Some people have special addresses created to handle scene-related s. YourRealName YourWorkplace. You can either have these printed in quantity or use your word processor to print them out in small batches. Because genuinely dangerous predators are usually spotted and driven from the mainstream community fairly quickly, if someone is well-known and generally well thought of, the probability that they are genuinely dangerous is fairly low but not non-existent.

The BDSM community is somewhat known for attracting people with strong personalities and strong opinions. Some of the people with the strongest personalities and opinions usually take the submissive role during BDSM play. This is usually very low-key at a munch, but there may be good reasons why two people are sitting on opposite sides of the room from each other. Once again, time is your best friend.

Munches are social affairs, and it is not at all uncommon for people who meet at a munch to wish to get together later on. This can be for further socializing, for a private meal, or even for the purpose of a BDSM play date. This can be, and usually is, just fine. Reputable players should have little problem with this and may even take the initiative in telling you that you should set one up. Such a device is a standard safety precaution.

Sometimes people wear their keys on their left hip to show that hey prefer the top or dominant role or wear their keys on their right hip to show that they prefer the bottom or submissive role. If you see someone wearing a collar of metal, leather, or some other material, there is a pretty good chance that they are the submissive or slave in an ongoing BDSM relationship.

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Sometimes people wear colored handkerchiefs in their left or right hip pockets to indicate an interest in a particular activity. For example, a gray handkerchief often indicates an interest in bondage. In general, wearing the handkerchief in the left hip pocket indicates an interest in being the dominant or active partner during the activity and in the right hip pocket often indicates an interest in being the submissive or passive partner.

Note: sometimes a handkerchief is just a handkerchief. Munches are social events, and one of the main reasons people attend munches is to meet new people.

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Their goal regarding meeting new people can range from socializing together, attending events together, playing together, munch bdsm of the above, all of the above, and even more. Indeed, it is not particularly unusual for people to meet at a munch and eventually end up in a long-term, committed relationship. It happens with some frequency to women who attend by themselves.

In such a situation, the woman may be approached by numerous men, and even some women or couples, for conversation and may leave the event with a large handful of phone s and addresses in their possession. Sadly, this often happens to single men who are not yet well known.

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Fortunately, if such men continue to attend munches and other events, they should make friends before too long. There is always room in the BDSM community for another ethical, friendly single man. Many munches have a special time period, usually shortly after the starting time, where people are asked in turn to say something about themselves to the group.

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This is usually a short statement about their name and their general interests. There may also be a period where people announce various BDSM-related events, workshops, and so forth. Munches tend to operate on something of a timetable. For example, food is often mostly ordered by a certain time, announcements are given at a particular time, and so forth.

Arriving no later than about 15 minutes after the official starting time usually works better. Consider coming back at least another time or two before writing off a particular munch forever. Munches are not educational events, however there is almost an embarrassment of riches available to people wanting to learn more about BDSM. Literature regarding some of these resources may be on hand at the munch. Available resources include websites, books and videos ahemclasses, workshops, parties, socials, and private lessons. Excellent resources exist in every major city, and also in quite a few smaller-sized cities.

Some cities have events munch bdsm intended for BDSM newcomers, so you might want to be especially alert for information about those events. On the west coast, check out the website of the Society of Janus in San Francisco. My best wishes to you in your explorations. Please remember that time is your best friend. See you at the munch! Note 1: This document is always a work in progress. Feedback is welcome and may be sent to jaywiseman yahoo. Note 2: This document may be freely posted on websites that do not require payment to access. Please contact me regarding reprinting or reposting in other venues.

My books and videos are fairly widely available. Version 1. What is a BDSM munch? How did munches get started? What kinds munch bdsm people attend BDSM munches? What should I wear? Special Terminology. Behavior Tips. Dealing with the restaurant staff. The etiquette of touching and personal space.

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